Dating is Part of Family Life

Once you realise that it is time to express your love to your dream guy, you probably feel quite nervous and scared. This was always one of your dreams.

You want the moment you express your love, to be very special and memorable for him. After all, that is what you would have hoped for if and when he declares his love for you. This could well be the cause of some nervousness.

You have to keep in mind though that rarely will it turn out like a hollywood movie. So, remember to relax and have realistic expectations. Your man might not even know how to respond to you.

Can you guess what he is thinking?

Integrity? passion? romance?

You can use the feelings mentioned above to branch off some ideas and take them further in your expression of love for your partner.

Idea No.1

You can be very traditional and go the romantic meal route. If you are a good cook, that will get some brownie points. If not, then do not worry, just order ready made food from a nice restuarant. Do not forget the setting. Make sure it is soft and lit candles, romantic music etc. Through the night, you will know when the timing is right and then just say it and mean it.

Idea no.2

One of the best ways is to think of a place that is special to both of you. All couples have a special place. Usually it is the place they met or the place they frequent the most.

You should arrange a visit to that special place together and take a walk or spend some time together. When you know and feel the timing is right, tell him how much you enjoy his company and that you love him.

Idea no.3

Wait until the end of the next perfect date with your man. Kiss him goodnight. Make sure it is a long, steamy kiss. As you linger, still standing within his arms look at him in the eyes and say I love you.

Fourth idea

Okay, you are not brave enough to say the words straight out, you need a little help. You could try these shy approaches.

Send your guy some flowers. If you think your guy is the type of guy who would appreciate you sending them to his work, do so. He might like the idea of his coworkers seeing how lucky he is. Now attached a handwritten note and say something cute like, just trying to get the guts to say I love you.

Some people feel that gifts are simply too much. You could go even more low key and send an e-card. Pick one from the thousands on the internet, something he would like and also says the words “i love you” on it.

Eventually you are going to have to tell him that you love him. It can be a very freeing experience and could lead to a much brighter relationship.

Have you ever noticed that most Internet profiles start with “I am” or “I want?” And although you’re the one looking for true love, your profile shouldn’t be only about you.

“Dating Online is not about you, it’s about the other person you’re wanting to attract to you. This is also known as Compound Interest. For a change try to ‘Pay it Forward’ and watch what happens,” Chaszey says.

“What do I have to pay forward?” you may wonder.

Think about it. There are more than 10 million daters registered with Internet Dating sites paying over $2 billion dollars per year in the hopes of finding true love. If everyone is looking for just that one person, the likelihood that we spend most of our time rejecting others and being rejected ourselves is a given. In other words, once your sizzling profile is public, all you can focus on is weeding through the hundreds or even thousands of men and women that flood towards you.

Until your true love has found you, try earning some karma browny points by responding to those you’re not interested in with grace. Because that most likely what you’ll spend most of your time with when you embark on the wild world of Online Dating.

“We all have heard the saying that ‘what goes out comes back tenfold.’ What we tend to forget is that no one should have to earn our kindness and our respect. Everyone deserves these gifts from us for the simplest fact that we share in the same sun light, the same water, the same air, and we all walk pretty similar paths to one another, a journey called life. We have to recognize and never forget that we all are looking for the same thing: Unconditional love,” says Chaszey.

You have to show willingness and devote some time to learn how to send graceful rejection e-mails to your potential suiters. They should show effort, be filled with grace and let the other person feel your kindness. “Don’t ever forget that the other person has feelings too and that the kindness of your words may just heal a broken heart. Mostly your tender e-mail will bring you karma points that will multiply through the concept of compound interest, and life will take on a whole new meaning for you. Tough to explain, but so worth the effort.”

Karma points always add or subtract from our character, and we want to create a stronger and kinder new you, that will attract the person you deserve.

Next time you hit that pre-set “no thank you” button, take some time and study their profile for a few minutes and respond accordingly, filled with your kind thoughts and your best wishes for a fellow being on a similar journey as yours.

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach and helps Online daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.

It may not sound like something you’d expect to be a successful strategy for getting your ex back, but it works really well to cut off all contact with your ex for about a month after the breakup. This has a number of good reasons behind it, and here are just a few.

1) Usually when two people who’ve been fighting continue to be around each other when tempers are still high, it causes more problems. Separating for a month or so functions as damage control, keeping you two from lashing out at one another and making things worse.

After that month of peace, you and your ex will be a lot less actively hostile. Breakups spin a lot of emotion around, and once that’s settled some real healing can begin…but not before. If you give yourselves this break, the results will be way more successful.

2) Even if you two are on good terms still, being together after the breakup has other effects that can make it harder to get him back. Think about it, how much will your ex want you back in his life if he feels you never left his life? That’s how it can end up feeling if you’re still together after you separate.

You don’t know what you have until it’s gone, and you can’t miss it if it’s still there. Neither can your ex! By forcing him to live without you for a month, completely without you, he has to come to terms with the consequences of his decision. Often, the reality of being completely without you will soften him up to the idea of a second try.

3) Being up in each others’ business, so to speak, tends to be a bit distracting and frustrating. It can be difficult to find the peace to really figure out what’s going on and what needs to be addressed if you’re going to pull off a reunion. Having a month apart from one another gives you ample opportunity to both heal your breakup pain and work out a plan for getting him back.

It’s a tricky thing to get somebody back after a blowout…people in pain behave differently than you may expect, and the right actions to get the right result may not be what you anticipate. Having a preset plan that has worked out what you need to do ahead of time will help prevent you from doing the wrong thing on the spur of the moment, even if it seems like the right thing at the time.

I recommend this separation to anyone just out of a breakup who wants to get her ex back. The benefits far outweigh the loneliness you’ll feel, and think of how great it’ll be to be reunited with him in a stronger relationship than ever. This breakup can actually bring you closer together than before, if you deal with it properly. Hopefully, this article has helped you learn a little more about how to do that. Good luck!