Dating is Part of Family Life

Let’s turn back the clock. You’ve gone on your first date with a woman. It went pretty well, but you’re not exactly sure how she feels about you. First dates are first impressions right? Unless you totally blew it, the chances of rounding up that second date with your lady, are probably a lot better than you may think.

In preparing to make a follow-up call, it is a very good useful idea to look at what you did on the first date, and recall what things you liked about each event that you shared. Writing down this information is a good thing to do. One way to show interest in your date is by recalling specific things of the date you shared together already.

Confidence is mandatory when preparing to make the follow-up call to the first date. Whether by reciting affirmations, exercising to build up adreneline, talking with a good friend who supports you, there are any number of ways leading up to feeling good about yourself. It takes courage sometimes to make that call, and so, without being cocky, this is a very good action to undertake before placing that call. Just make sure the confidence doesn’t cross over into egotism or grandiosity.

You’ve recalled all the pleasantries of the first date, your confidence is high, and now it’s time to make that call! Be sure to identify yourself from the beginning of the conversation, so as to avert any possible misidentification on her end. That would only serve to puncture the confidence you’ve just built around yourself. From the start, show interest in her and her life, her day. When you ask questions, the woman will tend to believe you are interested enough to listen to the answers she provides. Women like great listeners! Don’t just listen though, she wants to know your listening, and when you ask a follow-up question to her what she says, that just might help you earn that second date.

Once the conversation has warmed up and become more at ease, inquire as to her plans for later in the week. This will give you better chances of there being availability in her schedule should she care to see you again. If nothing is planned, then it would be a good time to ask her if she’d like to go out again. Be casual yet interested. Maybe say \”get together\” instead of \”second date\”, which may be too stressful of a term for her. If she does have plans, don’t fret, simply tell her why you called; that you had a great time last time you were together, and are interested in doing so again soon. Just remember to keep it easy and light.

Great if her answer was yes! Perhaps this isn’t the way it played out, however. Keep your chin up. Give her your number and tell her to call when she has some free time if she’s interested in hooking up again. Sometimes women like to play hard to get. She may call at some future time, when she feels more in control of the situation, or she may not call at all. In any event, continue to live your life, without waiting by the phone, or forgetting to exhale.

The great thing is that if that second date doesn’t happen, you can always try again with another woman. If you did everything as it should have been done on the first date, like being polite and a gentleman, listening when she talked, and things like that and she still doesn’t call, then maybe she just isn’t the one for you. At least you’ve only invested in one date at this point, and you can use the experience to better prepare for your next date with someone new.

Most importantly, always be who you are. Never try to be what you might think someone else would like you to be. Not starting out on an honest note, the likelihood of you and anyone making it to the second date are slim. Always be a good, kind, and polite person. Stay involved in the date. Try something new! Following this suggestions, I’m sure that the second date will be easy to rope in.